Falling In Love In Later Life.

 

There is something quite special about falling in love when you are a little older, maybe because we didn't see it coming! Some of my friends use internet dating to find 'the one', but I am not so sure I would  try it. I find it a little black and white, and somewhat contrived. As a writer, I love observing people's subtle nuances, and how they interact with others. However, I have heard of many success stories, so perhaps don't knock it till you try it :).

Body Language

I much prefer to physically be with someone. I like seeing their mannerisms, the way they move their body, the look in their eyes, how they react to situations. I love to hear the pitch and tone of someone's voice, as well as the words they use. Even in this day of feminism, I love a man to open doors for me, and make me feel I am the only one in the room. Is that a little out dated? 

The Bit In The Middle

I feel the best bit, is the bit in the middle. When you first find yourself thinking about someone, without really knowing why. You are not too sure of your feelings... or theirs. It could all be over in an instant, but they may become the love of your life! You want to hurry up and find out but, in a way, you love the long drawn out, will-it-won't-it. I love the butterflies that fly around my tummy when I see them, and the daydreaming that seems to take over your life!

Would You Want To Fall In Love Again?

I am not sure if I even want to fall in love again, although I am not sure if we have that option. Yes it is a wonderful feeling, something like no other, but even after a 35 year relationship, I can't help feeling a bit of a failure that it ended, or worry I would take forward my trust issues in to any other relationship.

I have also built a wonderful life for myself where I am free to be me, and I have to say, I really like it :). I do pretty much what I want, when I want. It doesn't matter if dinner is at 6.00, or midnight. No-one cares if I am up all night, or lay in bed all morning, covered in the crumbs of my toast! I guess it would have to be a very special person for me to fall in love with, but an even more special one to fall in love with me!

Companionship Or Passion?

For some people, they are looking for companionship and would be happy to find someone to spend time with and share life together. And I truly get this. One of the things I have missed while travelling is having someone to share special moments with.

But, personally, I feel it would have to be true passion, someone to laugh and cry with. Someone to hold my hand, and make me feel safe and special. A person I looked forward to seeing as soon as I opened my eyes each morning, after spending the night snuggled up together. I love that feeling of intimacy between two people, that is yours and yours alone.

Looking For Love?

So I won't be internet dating, or walking down the food aisles anytime soon. I am loving my life just the way it is. But sliding doors moments can happen at any time in our lives, and we never know when cupid might be hiding behind one of them.

 I guess in a way that is the exciting bit! Lily x

This article was written by me and first published at Sixty and Me